Olivia, my 80 year old pt. piped up one day and said, “I’ve never had an orgasm in forty years of marriage.” She said she’d faked it all those years during her marriage to Harry. “What a shame!” I exclaimed. Sister, your time has come and so must you!
I probed a bit further. Did you ever experience and orgasm on your own? No, she replied. Did you know that 70% of women require clitoral stimulation to experience orgasm? She didn’t know that. And finally, did Harry ever find out you were faking it? No, she said. I was glad for that and told her so because men like an enthusiastic partner.
Harry was long gone and Olivia had been on her own ever since. Harry was the only man she’d ever had sex with so she didn’t know if she might have experienced an orgasm with another man. She would never know. She said that although she would love to experience an orgasm before she dies, she had no interest in marrying again to have one. She felt that Harry had disappointed her on so many levels in life. That may have been a contributing factor as to why she never experienced an orgasm with him.
I explained the many health benefits of experiencing an orgasm from the release of endorphins which may help with pain, sleep and mood to the youthful glow it gives a woman. It is never too late to experience an orgasm and marrying isn’t the only chance to achieve this incredible pleasure.
Enter the womanizer, once believed to inflict pain, we’ve reclaimed this word to mean pleasure. The womanizer is a clitoral suckling device that produces fast and often multiple orgasms on demand.
Olivia said, “I need to have one of those before I croak!” One? You need multiples and the womanizer never disappoints! To purchase a womanizer go to: Back To The Bedroom
Maureen McGrath hosts the CKNW Sunday Night Sex Show on News Talk 980 is an avid blogger and an ardent feminist and believes that female pleasure matters and that “coming out” parties should not be reserved for the rich and ought to include a womanizer as the right of passage gift. Her TEDx talk has had over 3 million views. She is in private practice in North Vancouver and author of the book: Sex & Health: Why One Can’t Come Without The Other. She is Executive Director of the Women’s Health Initiative Network.
I have been married for 36 years and in the beginning our sex life was not great. We had growing pains in our relationship and I kept asking my wife why she wasn’t into sex. I discovered that she did not experience pleasure vaginally but achieved multiple orgasms clitorally. I can feel her reaction and she is definitely not faking it. It is all a matter of frank, honest communication.