It was anything but shallow. But what was it? Definitely lost in the moment. All of us. He lusts after the Lady Gaga. And she him. And we them.

We long for moments like this in our intimate lives. Dreams anyway. We live vicariously through these two even when we know Bradley is with another woman.

“Are they acting? Faking?” Ne’er a thought.

Because we long for that look, knowing it’s meaning.

Chemistry. Sexual attraction. Loin loving lust.

You’ve had it. Then you married someone for their brains and now their body turns you off. They let themselves go.

They were so much fun..until they never grew up even after the kids came.

Or, not the one you were “shallow” with, you chose the marrying kind instead.

Now your life/marriage is good. Plenty of money, nice house, kids & friends. But the lust is lacking. Sex is dull or non-existent.

Which is why you may get a tingle looking at Lady Gaga looking at Bradley Cooper.

You feel it in every fibre of your being. But familiarity provides immunity to excitement. So you seek it. Excitement. You go on-line. You dream, you fantasize. It’s arousing.

This can lead to “behavioural sexual problems” such as viewing porn excessively or masturbating to that “on-line lover” that you have never met. You may experience impulsive sexual behaviour. Your sexual behaviours may be may be characterized by a combination of repetitive sexual fantasies, urges, or behavior that is perceived to be out of control and it causes significant distress. This can lead to secrecy, shame and anxiety. It may cause difficulties in your relationship. You may not want to have sex with your spouse. This is becoming increasingly common. There is help.

Maureen McGrath

Maureen McGrath

Host of the CKNW Sunday Night Health Show on Corus Radio. As a leading women's health expert and Registered Nurse, I understand the importance that sexual, vaginal, bladder and bowel health has on overall health and relationships.

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