Yesterday my patient Wilda was all smiles when she had something to tell me… Two months prior, Wilda disclosed that she had not been intimate with her husband of 20 years for the past decade, since she had given birth to her third child at the age of thirty. She could not pinpoint the reason she had stopped having sex with her husband; she thought it might have been the life of a busy working mother of 3, fatigue, and/or the embarrassment of a vaginal prolapse (her bladder had fallen down).
I probed a bit more and asked her if they were intimate at all. She answered yes, but provided no details as to what that meant. She said she never got that close. Intimacy was a “kiss at the door” when he arrived home after a long day’s work. Wilda and her husband never discussed sex or the lack thereof. She excelled at avoiding the subject but felt tremendous guilt over it especially since I had asked her whether or not she was sexually active or not.
Wilda wanted to resume her sex life with her husband but had no idea where to begin. We needed to begin by fitting her with a pessary, a device inserted into the vagina to support a prolapse. She was quite happy to learn that she could have sex while wearing a pessary. There are many different types of pessaries, but the one that worked best for her was a #4 ring with support.
Wilda was concerned that the pessary may have a scent. Pessaries may have a scent and to prevent this I often suggest using a personal moisturizer that contains Tea Tree Oil such as RepaGyn® a vaginal ovule or DrUAqua vaginal cream.
We then spoke about a paradigm shift in Wilda’s wild life. Taking time for oneself and paying attention to a relationship and her husband is key to a healthy sex life. It is never easy to tell a woman that when men are not having sex with their partners or wives, there is an increased chance for cheating. I remind them it is about sex not love.
You can imagine how happy I was to hear her report that she had resumed her sex life after making a few changes and having her prolapse treated. She felt that RepaGyn® increased the moisture in her vagina, which she did not realize was lacking, and increased her libido! Not only was she sexually active, but she went all in (so to speak) and purchased lingerie. She was feeling sexy all over again and loving it and so was her husband who was surprised and delighted at his new-found sexy wife again! With Wilda’s lingerie, new-found libido, and love for her husband, it was no surprise that she was heading back to the bedroom… multiple times these days!
