Well, I told her, that’s how.
You see, it all started 10 years ago when my wife began to experience painful sex. She never sought treatment for it. She didn’t know there was treatment available. She never spoke to her doctor about it. And her doctor never mentioned it to her.
The dryness and pain put an end to their sex life. So much so that she told her husband he could have an affair or go to a massage parlor.
And he did….go to a massage parlor because he didn’t want to get emotionally attached to anyone else.
He loved his wife and really only wanted to be with her.
His wife found out about the handful of times he had a happy ending.
His marriage, on the other hand, didn’t have a happy ending. When his wife found out, she was furious and denied ever suggesting he go outside of the marriage.
She became even more distant, resentful, angry. She felt betrayed.
Trust is the cornerstone of a relationship, and when that trust is broken, it is difficult to regain.
He became sad, lonely, and downright depressed.
Henry sought help through GetCleopatra.com.
I explained that it would be important for them to get to the root of the problem as a first step.
When a woman enters the perimenopausal years, estrogen may drop in the urogenital tract and may lead to vaginal dryness and painful sex. This may cause women to lose desire.
Of course, who would want to have sex when it hurts?
There are other symptoms too of what is called Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause (GSM), like burning, itching, and recurrent urinary tract infections. GSM is the only aspect of menopause that will never go away like hot flashes or night sweats will. It is treated with low dose estrogen that requires a prescription and is lifelong therapy.
Women over the age of 65 are at risk for recurrent urinary tract infections, sepsis (an overwhelming infection), hospitalization, and death.
I sent this gentleman information about GSM to share with his wife. As I explained, his wife’s vagina would need to be healed first, and then they could begin to heal the marriage.
Maureen McGrath RN is a Nurse Continence Advisor, Sexual Health Educator. She is the Founder at GetCleopatra.com, a virtual health clinic to address women’s intimate health issues.
She hosts the Sunday Night Health Show, a National Radio Program on the Corus Network, lives from 8-10 pm PST about sexual health, how it relates to overall health, and makes relationships the best possible. https://globalnews.ca/bc/program/sunday-night-health-show