She was gorgeous & he loved her. Larry had it all; money, a woman w/ high sexual desire, 3 homes, nice cars…Or did he?

She would have sex with him anytime. The only problem was he didn’t want sex….or rarely. He controlled it. He got angry when she made advances.

His doctor told him that a man needs to have sex or he might be grumpy. His doctor was wrong.

He asked me about “scheduling sex” because he wanted to want it. Scheduling sex would not help.

Larry had low libido, something women have, not men! Her body wasn’t quite right. She wasn’t the type of person he usually “went after for sex.” He blamed her.

The truth is men suffer w/ low sexual desire too. A study of 5,255 men in Croatia, Portugal & Norway found 14.4 percent report a troubling lack of sexual desire lasting >2 months within the past year.

The causes may be physical, psychological or relational and it’s about brain chemistry; serotonin, dopamine & epinephrine.

Larry couldn’t get it up, because he couldn’t get up for anything. Larry was depleted. Done. Cooked. Toast. He wasn’t enjoying life.

Struggles w/ children, the ex, people-pleasing & all that money management (a high class problem).

It’s back to basics. Self-care. Larry was overweight, led a sedentary life & drank too much alcohol. I suggested he drop the weight, exercise & learn to set healthy boundaries. #SayNo to #SayYes

2 months later, things are looking up! Now Larry has it all!

Maureen McGrath is a nurse and sexual health educator who hosts the Sunday Night Health Show on Corus Radio in Western Canada.

Maureen McGrath

Maureen McGrath

Host of the CKNW Sunday Night Health Show on Corus Radio. As a leading women's health expert and Registered Nurse, I understand the importance that sexual, vaginal, bladder and bowel health has on overall health and relationships.


  • Hafedh says:

    Why are some women so frigid? Whose mistake is it? The woman’s or her partner’s?

    • This is such a complex issue. If there has been a history of sexual abuse, sex may be a trigger and a woman may appear as you say, “frigid.” Sexual chemistry is key. Messages women receive around sex may also make a woman appear frigid. It’s no one’s mistake, it just is and can be resolved once a person finds out the reason. Thank you for your question! Best, Maureen

  • Nico Martherus says:

    I have the same problem, however I am not over weight, eat healthy, exercise, general health is excellent don’t take any medicine and I am 80 years old and have had this problem for the past 5 years.
    I am against pills and therefore have not tried any enhancements stuff.
    Thank you!!

    • Low testosterone is common in men about 4/10 over the age of 45 have it. Too much exercise can be a problem. You didn’t mention alcohol consumption or issues in your relationship. Any stress, depression, anxiety? Are you sleeping well? Do you have any pain conditions? Hope that helps! Best regards, Maureen

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