Sandy, a forty-nine-year-old, divorced accountant went through early menopause at age forty-six. Her marriage broke up shortly thereafter. The divorce was amicable and an equitable split meant she ended up with one of the three houses, the most valuable one, but she recently sold it losing out on some real estate gains others enjoyed. She thought she would never own a house again.
Along came Tom, a fifty-something widow, and high powered “big gun” of a lawyer. The sexual chemistry was almost instantaneous. He was a very sexual man and quite adventurous in the bedroom. She, on the other hand, had never experienced an orgasm……..with a man. She said he would go on for hours without climaxing with one thing in mind; getting her to experience an orgasm but it still never happened.
Sandy had some trust issues and one concern in particular about Tom. Early on in the relationship, Tom told her that he had no interest in getting married again. This was a big turn off for Sandy and she admitted that part of her attraction to Tom was the mansion in which he lived. She dreamed of owning a house again after having lost hers in her recent divorce and she felt he had shut the door on that. I am sorry, I said to Sandy. I just could not see how a life in the mansion could possibly compare to a great sex life. I suggested she focus on the latter.
Sandy also had other medical issues. She was experiencing vaginal dryness and was treated with a low dose localized estrogen therapy and although things had improved, they were nowhere near what she had hoped. I told Sandy that an orgasm is like a concert; all of the instruments have to play their part in order to perform. I thought Tom’s honesty was fair and that she needed to have fantasies other than the one where she is the lady of the manor. She should enjoy what is and let things run their course in the bedroom. Focus on the sex. In addition, it sounded as though Sandy’s vaginal health could use a bit more help.
Therefore I suggested Sandy try RepaGyn a hormone-free ovule that is inserted into the vagina daily for at least two or three weeks then every other day. Sandy loved this suggestion because she was uncomfortable using more estrogen. I told Sandy to insert the RepaGyn into her vagina on opposite nights of when she used her low dose estrogen. The healthier a vagina the more likely a woman is to experience sexual sensation and that is exactly what began to occur.
In addition, Fantasy is key in experiencing orgasm especially when one fantasizes about their own partner or lover. A study published in the January 2015 issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine outlined the typical types of fantasies for both men and women include feeling romantic emotions during sex, imagining a particular atmosphere and location, receiving oral sex, and (particularly for men) having sexual intercourse with two women.
Armed with a personal moisturizer, RepaGyn, and the power of fantasy, Sandy, after about one month’s use of both was experiencing stratospheric orgasms. No longer did she fantasize about running the mansion instead she ran back to the bedroom in her mind with her lawyer lover. Play on Sandy!