Many people do not believe they are worthy of great sex. From guilt to baggage, unhappiness, to fear and/or physical ailments, many people falsely believe that these issues are too much to overcome and therefore are not entitled to great sex. But great sex lies on the other side of resolution of your issues. We all have troubles in life and many may have a direct effect on your sex life. That need not be the case. There are no problems in life that cannot be solved without up to date information, appropriate education, and above all else, an open mind.
Vaginal dryness is what brought Jean, a seventy-two-year-old patient, to see me. She had just met a new boyfriend after leaving her first husband after forty years of marriage. Sex was now painful and it had never been before. I asked her if it was impacting her sexual response, ie; arousal or orgasm.
She responded by telling me that she had never had an orgasm in her life because she experienced such guilt during intimate relations with her husband, and now, her new boyfriend. She said that her mother taught her that sex was dirty and therefore every time this woman was about to experience an orgasm, she said her mother “entered her head” and any pleasure she was experiencing stopped.
We discussed vaginal health and sexual health. I absolved her of her feelings that sex was dirty by explaining that she had been educated about sex through fear. A giant weight seemed to be lifted off of her shoulders when I told her sex was to be enjoyed. I also explained that she needed to treat her vaginal dryness because this may lead to low sexual desire and it may also impact her ability to experience orgasm.
We all have been given inaccurate information by well-meaning individuals who love us. Many of my patients tell me that although they are happy in their relationship, they may still struggle with an unhealthy thought or idea. Everyone encounters unhappiness in life and it may be difficult to enjoy sex if you falsely believe something to be true. The brain is the best sex organ! The good news is that great sex can happen at any time during your life. So it is wise to speak to your doctor or health care provider about any sexual health issues you may have.
There are treatments available as Jean learned. She was delighted to know she had so many treatment options for her vaginal dryness such as personal moisturizers that did not require a prescription. When she left my office, she thanked me profusely and said, “I am off to pick up some RepaGyn at the drugstore and get going on experiencing that long overdue orgasm.” I sensed she would be getting back to the bedroom asap.