Who was taught about orgasm? Or how to get there? Some women say the journey is as good as the destination. If you’ve never been there, you’ll never know.

95% of men in heterosexual relationships experience orgasm. Women? 50%. No one ever told men this fib. Men are straightforward. Women, complex.

Orgasm, the release of erotic tension is integral to sexual satisfaction. In order to understand why, it’s vital to understand what is thought to be going on in your body.

Master and Johnson’s describe a Four-Phase Model in response to sexual desire or a sexual stimulus:

  1. excitement
  2. plateau
  3. orgasm
  4. resolution

Kaplan’s Three-Stage model.

  1. desire
  2. excitement
  3. orgasm

Dr. Rosemary Basson’s “responsive desire” model resonates with the chronically busy & exhausted women of today.

It is a bio-psychosocial model where one lacks desire but when a man or a woman accepts the sexual advances of a partner, enjoys it & wishes they’d done that yesterday and yes, yes, yes, all is right with the world!

There’s tingling & increased sexual sensation.

Most sexual desire models tend to avoid including non-genital changes but heart rate, BP & respiration increases too.

So taking a page out of Nike’s book- “just do it!” It just might work!


Maureen McGrath is an RN and Host of the Sunday Night Health Show, a show about sex and health. Tune in here: https://globalnews.ca/bc/program/sunday-night-health-show

Maureen McGrath

Maureen McGrath

Host of the CKNW Sunday Night Health Show on Corus Radio. As a leading women's health expert and Registered Nurse, I understand the importance that sexual, vaginal, bladder and bowel health has on overall health and relationships.

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