Warning. This might blow you away!
Valentine’s Day can be a day of pressure for those in relationships. But shouldn’t it be a day of pleasure? Women are usually the recipients of the gifts but the pressure is typically on the men. But why don’t you release some of that pressure for your man this Valentine’s Day? Dr. Love proposes a gift you can keep on giving……to your man and blow him away in the process!
Make Valentine’s Day a day to remember for your man that isn’t very expensive. Talk is cheap but dirty talk is priceless and builds sexual tension as you prepare all day to blow him away! Dirty sext with your man the whole day through. Anything will do from a simple “can’t wait for you to come home” to as devilish as “I can’t wait to………….whatever you like.” But let’s face it, men are visual beings so send your man a sexy pic or two on your snap. You’re getting the picture, the sexual tension is building one sext at a time.
When he does come home (you’ll expect him to come soon, right? Not so fast!) start with a massage while you kiss and caress him. Have him take his pants off as you lead him back to the bedroom, get down on your knees and keep up the dirty talk. As you’re rubbing him in your hands, you might ask him what he’d like you to do now. It’ll be hard but you can do it!
As a nurse, it is incumbent upon me to provide you with a basic penile anatomy lesson along with the health benefits of sex. The main part of the penis is called the shaft and the head of the penis is the glans which is covered by the foreskin, or prepuce. The frenulum is the underside of the tip of the penis, where the glans joins the shaft. The frenulum is loaded with nerves. For many men, this is the the most sensitive spot on their penis! Good to know, right?
Many women just want to get oral sex over or are never satisfied because no man will ever have a chocolate penis that ejaculates money, diamonds or even extra time. I digress. Keep in mind oral sex is about science, hence the anatomy lesson, but it’s also an art. If you treat is as such, you will blow your man away.
Keep in mind, whatever techniques you choose to use, there are two rules for performing amazing oral sex on your man:
1. Be enthusiastic.
2. Make the first move.
Oral sex IS all about the art of the tease. Oral sex that involves a thousand different ways of kissing is a titillating tease and also serves to delay orgasm and ejaculation and help him last longer.
You’ll want to tease tenaciously and tenderly to build up that sexual tension so that your man is begging you for oral sex. You can also try using your hand to brush the tip of his penis around the outline of your lips. Dip inside your mouth after you’ve come full circle for more lubrication.
Before you perform oral sex on your man, try kissing him in the groin area, “rimming” his anus with your tongue and/or massaging his testicles, his buttocks, inner thighs and/or perineum, the area between the anus and base of the penis, (more anatomy) commonly referred to as the Male P or G spot. The perineum massage can be done internally by inserting your lubed finger into his rectum. Let the moaning begin!
Keep in mind you will stimulate his frenulum along with the glans when you are doing the deed. But first for the ultimate pleasure use the tip of your tongue and apply a gentle “flicking” motion to his frenulum to focus your stimulation. Flick up and down, sideways and all ways around. This will send him soaring! If your man has been circumcised, his frenulum may have been removed. Too bad.
Use lots of saliva on your man’s penis as you lick it just like you would a giant ice cream cone. Then gently blow on areas of wet saliva so your man feels a cooling sensation which will increase the sexual sensation. Ice water will suffice as well and warm tea just before will give a warm sensation. For a tingle, suck on a mentholated lozenge just before. This will have him begging for more, a surefire sign that the time has come for you to blow him away!
During oral sex, focus on the glans, which is where most of the nerves are located, sucking on it and using an up and down motion with your hand firmly on his penis with one hand, massaging his erogenous zones with the other. You’ll be playing his favourite tune if you “hum” to him during oral sex as it provides an added vibration for your man. Multi tasking never felt so good ladies. I know, right?
The brain is also blown away with the chemical process and release of the “feel good” chemicals and hormones like serotonin, vasopressin and oxytocin, which help to reduce stress, pain, aid sleep and create a bond that will blow you and him away! He may even blow off that hockey playoff or golf game to spend more time with you!
Believe you me, Dr. Love has seen firsthand the many benefits of oral sex for men performed by their partners. These are the happiest men and the health benefits cannot be blown out of proportion. Men who receive this gift are healthier, have lower blood pressure, sleep better and are in better moods. Happy Valentine’s Day.