Brynn was a thirty five year old mother of three who had just completed her family when she learned that her husband had an affair. With three children under the age of four, her vagina (she explained) became drier with each baby she delivered and sex was less and less frequent with her husband, Jack.
She said that their sex life had dwindled down to barely palpable. In other words, they barely touched each other any longer. Before children their sex life was robust and fun! The problem she faced, in addition to the daily fatigue as a mom who was not sleeping through the night, was that sex was painful.
She knew she avoided her husband because after a full day of three little ones tugging on everything all day, the last thing she wanted when she fell into bed was to be touched. She did not have time either to address her vaginal dryness either and she had never mentioned this to her husband because she was embarrassed. This was a tremendous worry. Not only was she trying to raise her children and excel at that, she now had to deal with betrayal, betrayal she knew happened due to her neglect of her health issues… she neglected her husband.
Brynn decided it was time to speak to someone about her vaginal health and her relationship. She heard me, on the CKNW Sunday Night Sex Show, say that I was the “vagina whisperer” as well as a “sexpert.” She wondered if there were any treatments for vaginal dryness that may help her to resume sex with her husband.
I explained that a personal moisturizer would probably be the best treatment option for her given the chronicity of her problem. Lubricants are a short term solution only and typically used during sexual activity to reduce friction. Personal moisturizers provide longer-term relief. For example, RepaGyn® is an ovule inserted into the vagina once daily for eight days as a treatment period and then twice weekly (or as needed) as a maintenance period. After two months, Brynn should be feeling better.
Brynn felt betrayed but knew in order to save her marriage she would need to confront her husband, Jack about the affair. She hoped the affair with his co-worker was about sex, not love. Intellectually, Brynn could understand why her husband cheated on her and she knew they had to work together to save the marriage. She hoped that Jack would want to work things out but only time will tell. It is always important to look after one’s health especially your sexual health and/or vaginal health as it can greatly impact your relationship. Attending to your sexual health will help you get back to the bedroom.